The rules of drinking are talked about quite a bit, but how to behave around nondrinkers is rarely mentioned.<\/p>\n
Well, nondrinkers have feelings, too, and they want to be heard. We asked our nondrinking readers on Facebook what they want drinkers to know about them. This is what they said.<\/p>\n
1. Check-splitting is rarely fair to nondrinkers
\nAmericans spent an estimated $799 billion in the nation\u2019s restaurants last year. Most restaurants aim to make about 30 percent of their revenue from alcohol, so those beverages can make up a hefty portion of the tab. Who hasn\u2019t been out in a large group and when the check came, someone suggested, \u201cHow about we just split it?\u201d <\/p>\n
Few people want to be the only one who meekly raises a hand in protest.<\/p>\n
\u201cI feel extremely awkward and I find it unfair [that] I have to pay the portion of someone else\u2019s expensive alcohol drink,\u201d Leila Mostafavi said. \u201cI feel it creates a silent tension and I get judged for not wanting to pay more. Is it fair for me to pay more when I drink a $3 soda?\u201d<\/p>\n
This was a common refrain: If alcohol raises a tab by about 30 percent, why should someone who didn\u2019t drink any alcohol have to cover it? In any group meal out, some people will order appetizers, desserts, coffee, or a higher-priced entree, and sometimes the check roughly balances out. But when one friend orders a salad and drinks tap water and another orders the 40-ounce rib-eye and a bottle of wine, that\u2019s not a check that should be split evenly, nondrinkers said.<\/p>\n
If the drinkers in the group don\u2019t step up and insist the nondrinker should pay less when everyone else had three rounds of $15 cocktails, then it\u2019s perfectly fine for a nondrinker to pipe up and ask, \u201cWould anyone mind if I just put in for what I ordered?\u201d There\u2019s no need to explain why, according to the Manner Matters etiquette column.<\/p>\n
Reader Sheri Rego noted that while it may \u201csound petty,\u201d she sometimes orders a dessert or an appetizer just to even the score when she\u2019s out with people drinking alcohol. <\/p>\n
\u201cBut they all expect me to share that with them,\u201d she wrote. \u201cThey didn\u2019t share their fancy expensive cocktail with me!!\u201d<\/p>\n
Several nondrinking readers said they\u2019ve hung back and waited for others to order first. If everyone else is ordering alcoholic drinks, they ask the waiter for a separate check when it\u2019s their turn. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The rules of drinking are talked about quite a bit, but how to behave around nondrinkers is rarely mentioned. Well, nondrinkers have feelings, too, and they want to be heard. We asked our nondrinking readers on Facebook what they want drinkers to know about them. This is what they said. 1. Check-splitting is rarely fair … Continue reading “6 Things Nondrinkers Wish Drinkers Understood”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":249,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[52],"tags":[67],"class_list":["post-248","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life","tag-alcoholic-drink"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/248","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=248"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/248\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":250,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/248\/revisions\/250"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/249"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=248"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=248"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ampforwp.com\/demo\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=248"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}